The Paradoxes of Love
By Leonard Orr

When we love people, we absorb their garbage – their feelings, thoughts, memories, and beliefs. I call it emotional energy pollution. Their thoughts, feelings, memories, and beliefs may be positive or negative.

We are Loving people when we spend time with them – when our body is next to theirs. So Loving people is involuntary. We automatically Love people when we pass them on the street, in buses and planes, when we are buying or selling. We absorb lots of stuff from the people we sleep with and live with and work with on a continuous basis.

Marriage is about becoming One Flesh! So are all forms of spiritual community – we call it communion. Community is about the group soul. Even watching TV has been called communal consciousness.

When we spend time with people and love them, we absorb their love, their pain, their tension, stress, body memories, joy, peace, death urge, happiness, sadness, low self esteem, diseases, and hate. Our spinning aura absorbs whatever is spinning in their aura. We walk away with energy and information without words, beyond words, without meaning, which we can discover through contemplation.

This excess feeling garbage in our energy body can make us feel uncomfortable, irritable, tired, sick, tense, angry, suicidal, grouchy, depressed, or happy, high, energized, and good. Loving can make us unloving.

The extent that we are thus affected and influenced by others is controlled by a number of factors: the power of the other person’s output, our openness, the amount of time we spend with them, what we talk about, etc. This mental energy exchange can be quite mechanical at times. At other times, it can be controlled.

This is the business of Loving. This is the business of the soul. It can make us dizzy and confused until we become aware of what we are doing. Our soul is always working with our own and with other people’s energy.

When we absorb too much emotional energy pollution from Loving others, we become uncomfortable, irritable, and grouchy – in other words: unloving.

This is the first paradox of Love.

Too much Loving makes us unloving. Giving too much Love not only makes us unloving, it can also make us feel unlovable.

Women have a tendency to be victims of Love more than men do because Loving and receiving are a special part of the

feminine mystique. It is also connected to the physiology of menstruation, which I wrote a booklet about called About your Femininity.

We can protect ourselves most easily by avoiding people, but we have already absorbed so many layers of emotional energy pollution over the years and created our own by building emotions, feelings, beliefs, etc through our habits of thought which collect energy and power directly from God, that we have to learn how to get rid of our garbage – our spiritual and mental garbage.

We can do it by controlling our thoughts and being alone in solitude long enough to sort it out through contemplation on ourselves – our pain, tension, feelings, etc. We can use mantras, prayers, or learn how to reach and enjoy the transcendental state.

We can learn how to use water through bathing. I learned how to Love people early in my adult Life when I became a devotee of Jesus Christ. I developed the habit of loving showers and long comfortable baths. I learned that soaking for hours in a hot bathtub filled with water made me feel good and more Loving.

Whenever I became uncomfortable, unloving, and tense, I retreated to my bathtub until I felt good and energized again. This simple cure worked for me for many years and still does!

When the quantity of people increased in my Life, I had to learn other techniques. I learned that purification practices are better than avoiding people. I love to share my knowledge with people through books, tapes, lectures, and trainings.

God helped me to discover Rebirthing-Breathing. Rebirthing-Breathing is connecting our inhale to our exhale in a relaxed rhythm until we merge the inner Spirit Breath of Life with our outer breathing mechanism of lungs, nostrils, diaphragm, nadis, etc.

This conscious breathing ability is a very powerful way to eliminate tension and unloving feelings and to restore our Pure Life Energy and our ability to Love again. Rebirthing - Intuitive Energy Breathing – can also heal birth trauma, death urge, diseases, and all kinds of unloving feelings. A few minutes of this breathing each day energizes us and restores relaxation and Love in our souls and in our bodies. I have trained thousands of Breathing teachers, sometimes called Rebirthers, who can teach you this ability to breathe energy as well as air and restore your Love in ten 2 hour breathing sessions.

Next I learned that what I ate helps also to make me a Loving person. The countries that eat the most meat have the most violence, hate, and diseases. Being a vegetarian and fasting one day per week on liquids makes me feel better and makes me more productive. Fasting enables me to enjoy food more on the other six days, keeps me peaceful and joyful, and restores my Love for people and for Life. A personally designed exercise system also helps.

Later I learned about the inner spiritual healing power of fire. If we spend 5 to 10 hours with a campfire, a fireplace, or at least 4 burning candles, we can discover scientifically the inner spiritual secrets of fire. Spending a day with fire can burn away even the death urge and persistent negative feelings to restore Pure Life Energy and wholesome Love.

Earth, air, water, and fire are the physical qualities of God – the Eternal Energy. They are the eternal vehicles of grace. When we combine the conscious use of them with Love for God and Love for people, we can heal ourselves quite efficiently and heal others and even raise the dead.

These simple, scientific, and obvious spiritual purification practices combined with normal common sense and intelligence are the eternal, inner, spiritual secrets of Love, Life, and personal mastery. They were given to us by God at the beginning of creation because they are built into the nature of Life and the Universe.

Using them consciously is the supreme Wisdom of the mind. Practicing the basic spiritual purification disciplines in Truth, Simplicity (Oneness), and Love is the Eternal gospel of God the Father, the Angel of the Lord, who is also known as Shiva Yogi or Babaji – the Eternal Youth.

He appeared to Moses in the burning bush. Jesus spent 9 years with Him in India, and I enjoyed about a month per year with Him for 5 years.

He is not dead, but appears to thousands of people all over the world every day to give them Love and spiritual guidance.

Everyone who practices His gospel and learns how to Love and Live in clean Energy is regularly visited and helped by Him – by the Living God.

Babaji’s business is the business of Loving in Truth and Oneness. He is the simple Ruling Father! He is available to all, always dwelling in the space between our thoughts.

In some European languages, the word for Love is ‘Amor’, which means ‘without death’. ‘To Love’ means to be immortal and to enjoy daily the bliss and clean Energy of wholesome Life and to be productive – Eternal Life and Love is the joyful service to God and people with a clean and balanced Energy Body.

The final paradox of Love is the realization that even Loving God too much can make us unloving, like Loving people too much. Throughout history and today, religious fanatics cause war and all kinds of misery. People are persecuted, tortured, children and spouses are abused, and people are murdered in God’s name. We have to learn how to relax and live in balance. Even excessive service to God can make God hate us and be displeasing to Him. He may reject us and even cut us off. Of course, we do it to ourselves by getting out of balance. This is the teaching of all Scriptures. This is also the teaching of your body, which is the Holy Temple – the Living Temple of God.

Our physical existence and health is continually dependent upon our ability to Love and to continually purify and enjoy God’s Love for us through relaxation and listening.

Perfect Love and perfect Knowledge is the eternal path to salvation of Spirit, Mind, and Body – to a perfect Life!

Nothing is more important than purity of thought, but we have to be careful not to suppress our feelings and body memories. Superficial positive thinking can be dangerous.

We can learn how to relax into our pains and negative emotions and memories and breathe them away without hurting ourselves and others.

We have to learn how to release our feelings without projecting them on others and dumping them on others. This can be called repentance and forgiveness. It is the science and art of successful Loving and Living. It is practical spiritual enlightenment.?

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Last Updated 4/4/2001